Make Your Wedding Inexpensive

I‘ve been talking a lot in recent posts about how much control or lack of control we have over what people will say or do during our wedding planning and celebration. The problem is that when you are out there struggling with a tight budget doing everything in your power to make your wedding inexpensive, you are bound to give up some of the control to others.

There is no way around it. What we can’t afford to pay to have done we have to either do ourselves or else delegate some of the work out to others.  Getting married is stressful enough. Trying to do it all yourself just magnifies that load and makes it 10 times worse!

While dealing with all of the pressure and stress of trying to do it all on a tight budget, many couples will make a big mistake. We are so grateful for any little help we can get that we will sometimes just automatically accept it when offered without fully measuring the qualifications of the person offering the help until it’s too late. Where there are important jobs that need to be done on the day of your wedding, you need to consider who you will make responsible for these jobs. Plan ahead! You’ll need to decide whether they are family, friends, or somebody that you need to pay something to ensure that you get the job done right and on time.

While it might be nice to get members of your family and friends involved in these important jobs; you know them, you know who they are. If you know in your heart that they are unreliable you will be doing yourself a big disservice leaving the responsibility in their hands. You have to be honest with yourself when making this sort of decision. Remember this is probably going to be one of the biggest days of your entire life. It has to be done right the first time through; there is no second chance here.

It might be better to get them involved in something else that doesn’t require as much to do with your actual wedding day as you don’t want any last-minute hiccups destroying your plans and this can happen so easily when the wrong people get involved.

While these decisions might be difficult for you to make, where you don’t allow friends and family to get involved in specific aspects of your wedding, the important thing to remember is that everything needs to be run efficiently as it is such an important day in your life that is going to be remembered forever.

If you already have people doing various tasks and you can plainly see that they aren’t living up to your expectations of them (and you probably already know who they are) or you are finding that you are having to go behind them and do or redo what you thought was already done; now is not the time to be timid, it’s time to take control. When people can’t do the job efficiently they need to be replaced with somebody who can whether they like it or not.

Obviously you want to be diplomatic when friends and family are involved so that is why you need to sit down with your partner and go through the planning process well in advance to determine who will do what and how you can monitor their tasks to ensure that they are getting done properly and how you can keep other people happy without affecting your wedding outcome and your happiness on the big day.

It is your wedding day to plan however you and your partner like, and that is something that you must remember throughout the whole process. Just because you have to make your wedding inexpensive, it shouldn’t mean that you have to settle for cheesy or second rate results.

If people truly think of your best interests then they will be happy to help where they can, but according to your instruction. That is the key and it’s worth repeating again, they must be able to do it according to your instruction.

So when you choose those who are going to be responsible for planning and helping to make your big day a success, be honest with yourself and more importantly with your thoughts about them and you will increase your odds dramatically for having things turn out the way you imagined. You will also greatly decrease your chance of having a conflict that could damage your relationship with that family member or friend.

Sometimes this is the reason why people employ wedding planners who can go about running the wedding as they would do in any business and make decisions that could otherwise cause problems if they are made by you or your partner. We don’t have that option open to us because we have to make our wedding inexpensive.

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